I have had several people say to me “Well done!” for my last post and for not being influenced by other people and tradition. I think a lot of the time wedding ceremonies are done a certain way purely because that is how it has always been done and sometimes that doesn’t sit well with the couple actually getting married but, due to family or friends, they feel obliged to carry on with it. I have always been stubborn. It is probably one of my strongest characteristics much to the love of Craig! I know my Mum would love us to have a venue somewhere and to get married with everyone watching, followed by a proper sit down meal and dancing. I know my Dad would love us to get married in a church. I know myself though. I struggle to attend friend’s weddings purely because of the sit down meals, the finding an outfit and the dancing! I was a bridesmaid once and I cried so many tears and had so many sleepless nights worrying about the hen-do, the walk down the aisle, the photos, the dancing and the being sociable. I struggled so much with it and know it would be even more intense being the bride. I envy those people who can relax and not have a care in the world. I cover it all up very well. I smile and laugh at these events and will chat to anyone I stand next to! I will mingle and offer people drinks. However, every 15 minutes, you’ll see me disappear. I find myself needing to find a corner of solace; of quiet and calm and time where I can recharge because I am exhausted by putting on a front. I always leave events early – friends’ BBQs, weddings, parties, nights out, etc., because it is so mentally exhausting for me and I just need my bed! It is only when I am with people that I truly love and know that they truly love me, that I can be me and be happy. I don’t think a lot of people know this about me. This is the real and honest reason why we have chosen to have such a small day and why we are having it at home. I am really excited about our celebration with our friends and family. I think that having it at home will mean I can relax more and be able to enjoy myself…and because my dog (he is my comfort blanket) can be there..!!
Phew!! That should have been a confession in itself! Actually, today I wanted to talk about the dress!
With such a low key event, and for only wearing the dress for 3 or 4 hours, I don’t want to spend the usual prices for a dress. Although, I am loving the idea that this means I will also get to buy another dress for our meal out, that evening, and another summer dress for the next day! Whooop!! There are SO many beautiful dresses and I want them all!! Choosing one is going to be so tough. I must confess that on the train journey back from Washington DC to New York (about 1 hour after the proposal), I spent several of the three hours looking at dresses on Pinterest (I feel like all weddings should be sponsored by Pinterest!). I was on it.
I remember back in 2014, when Olivia Palermo got married, I was stunned by what she wore. It was so relaxed. I had always thought that wedding dresses had to be formal, with a corset so tight you couldn’t breathe. Hers was so fresh and light, and that tulle skirt was beautiful! It stuck with me (and all of her fashion choices ever since!). I suddenly had this new outlook on what I would want a wedding dress to be. I enjoy dressing up and making an effort…but I also enjoy being comfortable and confident in what I’m wearing.
I always thought I’d marry in a similar, high waisted, tulle skirt, with a crop top – the plan to have abs by the wedding still stands, although I am currently carrying the most weight I ever have and am still doing no exercise….positive thinking is all you need guys! No, I hope to write about my exercise plan in the next post, in order to give myself some motivation and accountability. However, thinking sensibly, and also thinking that I was going to get married in a church, it didn’t feel right. I would now like a maxi length, simple dress, with subtle embellishments and very thin straps.
I very quickly feel in love with a brand called “Grace Loves Lace.” They have a similar feel to what Olivia wore. It is an Australian brand and all have the feel that you could wear them for a beach wedding, plus the models on the website look stunning in them! I saw the price of the one I liked (£1660) and my heart sunk but thought I could combat that by getting in touch with a friend who lives in Australia and seeing what the price was, on the Australian site, in Australian dollars. The plan didn’t work and the Australian price still worked out at around £1000; much more than I wanted to spend.
The hunt continued. I found the Anthropologie wedding dresses and loved those but again, the prices were too much and I didn’t want to order something from America and then not like it! Next, I discovered a website called littleblackdress and found a dress on there for £89. It was golden coloured with small sequins throughout (I know it sounds hideous but there is no longer a photo of it on the website so I can’t prove that it was actually nice!). I loved it and I could see myself wearing it. The problem was that this was in March 2017. Our wedding isn’t until August 2018. I was caught in Catch 22. I didn’t want to buy it to end up finding one I preferred, at a later date, but then I didn’t not want to buy it and it come off sale (it was limited edition) and I not be able to get it. I held off and it has now gone out of stock.
I finally ended up on ASOS just looking at white and cream dresses. A brand kept popping up called Needle and Thread. I’d seen their dresses before and always loved them but they were always too expensive for the occasion I was looking for. More recently I’ve been looking directly at their website, in order to see everything they sell and not just the ones ASOS has picked out. They have more than one dress that I would be happy in and I think I will end up buying from there. They are from around £100-£250 and are much like the Grace Loves Lace ones but with a much better price tag!
I am going to wait until next year to buy one – I just hope they have some I love!! Can anyone offer me any advice on when to buy them? I also don’t want to buy one ahead of time as, as I said above, I’m going to look like a Victoria’s Secret model (HA!) and so don’t want to end up with one too big on the day!
See you next month!